Its so easy in our society to be all about me. I can remember messages many of my role models growing up affirming the importance of being able to take care of myself. 'Don't depend on anyone, but yourself - people will always let you down.'
That is a disastrous attitude to have in a marriage...I'd venture to say even as a single person. We are all dependent on one another...'no man is an island.'
Well that's where I started nearly three years ago when Will and I got married...I wanted to be self sufficient. I could do it on my own. Truth be told...I probably could, but that's a lonely place to be. The joy in achieving success, having nice things.growing in wisdom and maturity, is having others along for the journey. But just like many of us experience at work with our managers, if you don't involve others in the journey, their buy in and enthusiasm about your success is minimized. So, I had to learn to be unselfish. I now develop goals with my husband. Sure, everything that he wants to accomplish for the year isn't top on my list, but its on our list because its important to him. For instance, I don't like going to Kings Island except for the once a year when the company provides free tickets. However, William LOVES roller coasters. One of his goals that made our list was getting a Kings Island season pass. Love is unselfish and I am unselfish because I love William.
There is a song by Bishop Noel Jones that says titled, It's not about us, its about Jesus. My favorite verse in the song says: It's not about fortune, its not about fame, it's not about titles, you don't even have to know my name. I am an instrument of praise, no I'm not ashamed, I'll praise him all my days. Another reason to not be selfish - it's not about me anyway. Its about him getting the glory.
Be Blessed!
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You are right it's not about us, but it's about Jesus... when we fall in love with Him it makes loving so easy! I thank God for loving parents they taught me a lot about unselfish love and it was mainly by their actions. Saying I love you means one thing, for instance you've get a piece of cheese cake about to take a bite and you hear "oh that looks good let me have a bite" :-). What do you do? I struggled with that a little, I would grudgingly give a bite. Then I realized, what's the use in having something delicious or great and you can't share it with the person you love the most in the whole wide world?
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