William with a touch of salt & pepper hair
William with his first taste of H2O with Gas in a few weeksToday's dare was fairly straightforward. I have forgiven William for any and everything he has ever done wrong towards me. The thing I have chosen to work on is forgiving EVERYONE more quickly. Last week, my mom wanted to do something for my brother, despite making a commitment to do something for me. She put her commitment to me on the back burner to take care of his need. I wasn't happy at all.
However, I made up in my mind to forgive her right away. She wasn't operating with any malice in her heart. She simply didn't want to discuss/explore a solution that allowed her to meet my brother's needs, while still keeping her commitment to me.
Today's dare showed me the importance of communication and being courageous enough to have the conversations that will ultimately help us stay out of hot water with the people we love most. My mother could have said, 'I know I committed to do this with you, however, something has come up and I'd like to be there for your brother. How should I approach this, so you don't feel slighted and I can do something that's important to me.' Instead, she pretended that she could meet both of our needs at the same time, which was not possible.
Usually, my reaction is, 'Can you believe my mom did this? She completely sold me out.' Instead, I chose to not focus on being a victim, but rather on being the victor. I said, mom, if you had told me that you needed to do something for Marshall, then I would have done something else while you helped him out. Instead, you took away my options to do anything else by pretending that you could address both of our needs at the same time. In the future, I'd appreciate you just telling me what you have to do and presenting me with options.
She agreed, but I am sure she felt scolded by her daughter. I felt great, because I had the opportunity to be honest and transparent with someone I love. I didn't blame her or yell at her or give her the silent treatment. I simply told her what i didn't like about what she did and how I'd like to be treated going forward.
For me, William is the easiest person in the world to talk to like this. He is my soul mate. We are beyond hurting one another's feelings or having to put up false faces. We just tell it like it is. And he is the first to apologize to restore order in our relationship. I just love this man. I am so happy he has returned safely - and even with a little salt & pepper on top.
Be blessed!
However, I made up in my mind to forgive her right away. She wasn't operating with any malice in her heart. She simply didn't want to discuss/explore a solution that allowed her to meet my brother's needs, while still keeping her commitment to me.
Today's dare showed me the importance of communication and being courageous enough to have the conversations that will ultimately help us stay out of hot water with the people we love most. My mother could have said, 'I know I committed to do this with you, however, something has come up and I'd like to be there for your brother. How should I approach this, so you don't feel slighted and I can do something that's important to me.' Instead, she pretended that she could meet both of our needs at the same time, which was not possible.
Usually, my reaction is, 'Can you believe my mom did this? She completely sold me out.' Instead, I chose to not focus on being a victim, but rather on being the victor. I said, mom, if you had told me that you needed to do something for Marshall, then I would have done something else while you helped him out. Instead, you took away my options to do anything else by pretending that you could address both of our needs at the same time. In the future, I'd appreciate you just telling me what you have to do and presenting me with options.
She agreed, but I am sure she felt scolded by her daughter. I felt great, because I had the opportunity to be honest and transparent with someone I love. I didn't blame her or yell at her or give her the silent treatment. I simply told her what i didn't like about what she did and how I'd like to be treated going forward.
For me, William is the easiest person in the world to talk to like this. He is my soul mate. We are beyond hurting one another's feelings or having to put up false faces. We just tell it like it is. And he is the first to apologize to restore order in our relationship. I just love this man. I am so happy he has returned safely - and even with a little salt & pepper on top.
Be blessed!
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